npdizaya:

friendly reminder that your friends with bpd, npd, hpd, and dpd actually need attention and support. it’s not just “being needy” or selfish, it’s necessary for their health, no matter how excessive it might seem. 

there is nothing wrong with “being needy”. stop shaming people for needing attention and instead actually GIVE them positive attention. 

some of us crave negative attention, but getting enough positive attention can help us avoid conflict instead.

this is also a reminder for people with bpd, npd, hpd, and dpd

positive attention is healthy. negative attention is (usually) not. try to focus more on support and healthy interactions. conflict brings stress and can lead to legal issues or even physical injury. try to avoid seeking it out if you have people around you who can provide positive attention.